Enough of the chit chat here, today sasa want to share about how deal with long distant relationship. Well this ain’t as simple as what you read. Imagine your lover is far from you for a period of time, both you couldn’t meet, couldn’t talk and couldn’t touch each other like any normal couple. This requires quality in person than just the effort put in. Here, sasa have 5 basic steps to maintain a long distance relationship:
Learn to trust your partner. Trust is important for two people to continue attach to each other, you shouldn’t let your unhappy past to shadow your current love life. Lady especially very easily gets jealous and suspicious about man’s social life, they tends to check on their guy from time to time when they are out. This will make your partner feel uneasy and get annoyed for your behavior. Let your love one to have some personal space with their friends! Find something to do instead, for example, watch a movie, catch up with your friends or read a book. You must learn to listen to your heart and believes that he/she is worthy for your love.
Communicate is the key. There are so many ways out there nowadays to keep in touch with your love ones, eg. sending sms or mms, calling up each other, skype or email. You can always let your partner to know about your day, what you encounter that day and how you feel about it. Even he/she is not near by your side but still able to be there for you mentally, understand your feelings, observes your changes in life and give you support if you need him/her. Sometimes when your partner faces some massive trouble and you couldn’t help, listening is the best you could do for him/her. Listen to whatever he/she say, never say something to put them down unless they ask for your sincere opinion. You need to understand that they are just too angry and didn’t mean what they say. Try not to take things so seriously on what they say when they are furious.
Send your partner a love letter in text message, letter or mail form. Express your love and passionate in words and send in the morning to make a day for him/her. You can start by recall your partner how you two know each other, what about him/her that you are attracted to and what makes you to decide to be with him. If you have no idea how to make the letter interesting, sasa suggest you to add a relevant poem to beautify it. You could also attach a recent photograph of yours in the letter; this would trigger their love hormone and make your partner miss you more!
Know your boundary in a relationship. Once you get involve in relationship means you are ready to put commitment in it. Giving ways to boundary === You have to be LOYAL to your partner! Sasa found that loyal partner is a rare species nowadays. (If you are one of the rare species, CONGRATULATIONS!! You earn sasa’s respect!) Many of them that sasa saw having many dates with different partner at a same time, flirt with some other man/lady behind their partner and even have FTU partner! (FTU:For Temporary Use) Well, boundary is a very subjective terms for different people. Some people will require their partner to report daily activities, some will not allow their partner to have night activities without them and some will never mind who their partner hangs out with. Whatever rules are set, as long as both are happy with each other right? Maybe you are unhappy with the limits your partner set, you could always talk to them! After all, they still love you as much as you do to them. Just try to make things up together, it is one of the healthy processes for your relationship. ;)
Never hide things from your partner. Keeping something from him/her, especially something about your relationship is double the crime! Speak honest to your partner if you have gone over the boundary in relationship instead of doing it behind him. Your partner will appreciate the effort you willing to speak out to them and try to come to an agreement. At the end of the day, human still passionate to their love ones, you just need to deal with them in their ways.
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